The following was contributed by ASFL executive board member Olufemi Ogunjobi
Africans, football fans especially, are not quick to forget the embittered family feud between sports personality Emmanuel Adebayor and his family – a story of a successful child, who did all his best to save his family from hard times, but was taken advantage of until he had to burst out .
From a nuclear family of six, with extended relations, I know his story is credible and not an unusual one. Actually, it tends to be a common scenario within and outside Africa. You have that one person that is successful and if they happen to come from a poor family or relatives with extreme financial hardships, they become the bank rollers for these relatives. In fact, they are sucked dry to the bones to the point where they feel their families and loved ones would even have the skins off their bodies, if they could.
I understand African cultural set up so well, particularly for poor families whose ‘bread winner’ (mostly the father) died so early. The other members are left shattered, and struggle their way through until there is another bread-winner. In many cases, the eldest child or whoever is successful in that household takes up the responsibility and care for the mother and younger ones.
This is no bad thing, and indisputably, families – your people, are an integral part of one’s life, and should be taken care of to the best of one’s abilities, but not to be dependent on for survival. (more…)